Are you in a difficult or unhealthy relationship? Maybe you repeatedly find yourself in challenging relationships and can’t figure out why you keep dating the same type of person. You feel isolated and won’t allow yourself to get close to anyone? Or you’re struggling because your partner has an addiction, is a work-a-holic, or is even abusive?
You might define your situation as one of the following:
Co-dependency in its most basic form can be understood as an unhealthy dependence upon people, behaviors, or things. Ultimately, there is such a lack of identity within a person from previous wounding that they search for themselves externally. My passion is to help you find your true identity. Allowing you to enjoy relationships and things but not needing them to complete who you are as a person. You were created with great purpose and are exceptionally unique and there is a tremendous amount freedom in discovering who you were truly created to be.
Lack of Connection
Are you the type of person that has no real connections? Or the second someone gets close to you, you push them away? Self-sabotage anything real?
This can feel like a strange mix of safe and lonely all at the same time. There’s always a reason why we develop the relational patterns we have. Where do you see yourself in 5 years if you don’t change this pattern? Continuing to live lonely and afraid or are you wanting more out of life?
What to do
Whether you distance yourself and feel a lack of connection with others, or are in a codependent relationship, they have similar roots. Generally, you’re operating out of some sort of wound that has yet to be processed and dealt with.
I’ve heard it said before that counseling is for the weak. I think that’s baloney! It takes guts to dig in and process the hurts that have influenced the unhealthy patterns you have.
My desire for you is that you can grow in your understanding of how you got to be the way you are, and find new ways of living. Ultimately leading you to operate from a position of freedom and authenticity in all areas of your life.